There was an engaged discussion recently when I read something that someone wrote and I thought; “well that just does not seem correct?” My first thought was to engage the discussion but I knew we would be off to the races on a discussion who was right and who was wrong.
That discussion would have been nothing but a waste of time.
And to be truthful, when I considered the source; I doubted my own convictions. My column today is not about being right or wrong in an online discussion, or at a support group, or even in a phone call; it is what to do when you are looking for answers.
Many, and dare I say most, agreed with what this person wrote and I wanted to find out for myself. I started asking some people who I know and respect who, for the most part, agreed that the discussion should have been more open-ended and not so definitive that IT IS THE WAY IT SHOULD BE.
Being in the wonderful position I am in life, I contacted quite a few doctors who stated there are too many mitigating aspects to the situation that should be left to the individual to decide which way it should be. It is surely not a definitive.
The moral of this story is that no one person should be taken at what they say to be an absolute truth. Heck, it took four guys to get the gospel right and they didn’t even agree on details. Truth is, at the end of the day, I did not want to get into a discussion about it but I needed to know for me. As I stated, being right or wrong is only important to me as it relates to the management ideas I try to instill in my two kids with T1.
My point is that no matter what you read, and even if 47 other people say it is the truth, if it does not seem right to you; do your homework and find out. Be careful NOT TO LOOK just for an answer that you want to hear, but rather, obtain enough information, lay it down in front of you, and make the decision that you know is best for your child and the day-to-day management of diabetes, or supporting an entity that you feel is correct.
Never stop asking questions; ever! The first step in formulating an answer is to ask the question………..how many questions? As many as it takes for you to believe that the sources are reliable and educated enough to render an opinion worthy of your consideration.
Horns can be very loud to get individuals out-of-the-way, but it is a quiet map of a chartered and planned-out course that gets you to the destination. Think about it.
And act accordingly……….but only if you agree that is the way to go.
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