It happens. In all sorts of varying degrees, but at some time or another our children will decide that they do not want diabetes anymore. More than just ‘not want it’, they will decide that they do not want to do anything to take care of it.
In some it is for a day or so. Some it so much more.
It can happen at anytime, really, but it seems to me that many times it happens during the teen years. There is a time when they just turn off. They do not take their shots, check their blood sugar, eat right, and they can get pretty nasty toward life and everyone around them.
It is our job to keep a check on how much this thought process is impacting their life and there are many courses of action that can be taken and should be taken. My friend Joe tells us (who has T1 for over 50 years) that everyone needs a break, Every now and again it is okay to just do the minimum so the brain can take a little rest. Let them kick back a bit.
Some who have experienced an all out melt down will have their endo inform the child that they should speak to someone. Someone who specializes in diabetes and the psyche of living with it. At some point it may be worth while for your child to have someone to speak to that is not you. And it might be just a tad easier if it comes ‘officially’ from your endo. Let your endo know what is happening and seek their advice on next steps and who, possibly, your child may speak.
There are many facets to diabetes and living with it. It’s never easy. It is at certain points that it must really be about giving them choices and others when a course of action must be considered.
I tell you this from someone who knows nothing about living with diabetes because I do not have it. THAT is the most important lesson I have learned in all my years. Trying to explain to a child something we do not understand, and THEY KNOW we do not understand is a huge part of the battle. Find someone who can talk to them. Someone who can set them correctly because they have been there.
There is help out there and the most important thing we can do as parents is keep seeking it until the problem is resolved. Please share what you have done when your child just decides ‘not today’ or ‘no more’. It can be extremely frustrating and we feel so helpless.
Share any tidbits you may have also. Others could use the help.
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