I debated with myself for some time to write about this subject because when something seems like it could be so good, I do not want to dampen anything. But the more I thought about it, the more I thought that it was a discussion that needs to be had. It’s surely food for thought and surely your thoughts are always welcome. I believe that we should celebrate any and all of our kids’ accomplishments…..diabetes or not. If there is an opportunity to bolster them up and make them feel good about themselves…………….I say; let’s do it.
But sometimes caution has to be used on ‘not’ necessarily what is, but when it ‘isn’t’ present; that needs the discussion.
There is an ongoing idea out there to celebrate when a reading comes up at ‘100’; and my discussion today is not to take issue, necessarily, with the idea but to have you consider thinking that out a little further than just the idea of posting the ‘100’; that is becoming more and more popular.
Here is my thought, and feel free to push back on me–it’s just that; a thought. It is not so much the ‘100’ that concerns me, it is the 287 that follows on the next day. Hitting a ‘100’, obviously, only happens sometimes. And if one makes a big deal at getting ‘100’ and the child thinks that the number is terrific, and wonderful, and mommy posts a picture of me holding my meter showing a ‘100’……well what happens when mommy does not do it at 86, or 118, or even 165…….not in your mind; but in the child’s mind? When it does NOT happen, it does two things: the first is equivocate it to the test being hung on the refrigerator, and the second thing is from a child’s point of view, when they do not reach ‘100’ and a fuss is not made——they have failed.
I have said it a thousand times. Growing up, and from the time Kaitlyn was diagnosed (and we were advised by the brilliant, late, Dr. Richard Rubin) and every time we checked her blood sugar, all we said was ‘thank you’. The number was nothing more than a gauge to decide what to do next.
Because it’s not the making of the fuss over anything that is the point to consider, it is when you DON’T make a fuss; what is your child to think? What is THAT message. And with diabetes, even when they try their hardest, that number should not ‘reflect’ their (nor your) efforts. The only thought is that whatever it is, it’s not as good as when mommy and/or daddy made a fuss over it the last time. This goes even more-so for an A1C.
These numbers are there to help guide us on a map of this journey with the new normal. Just be careful when celebrating things diabetes…..building up a child a little, only to disappoint them that much more when not celebrated, is something to be avoided.
And in diabetes, those non-optimum numbers come too often to make anything more out of them than what they are……road signs on what to do, and not a measure of accomplishment. Don’t measure their efforts by a number. Celebrate what they do, living life to the fullest while managing this monster!
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