Yesterday I wrote about how we are all in this together. I referred to the tear-stained pillow we all have become accustomed, at one point or another. Quite honestly, I was shocked on how many people read it, a chord must have ben struck. We all take comfort in knowing that we are not alone. We have so many who help us…….well…..almost daily. There is a flip-side to that coin…..and that too, should make you ‘take pause’.
Have you stopped and looked at your child in their daily activities? I mean, really looked? Well from an outsider—I have been fortunate to look, to witness, to observe many of your kids. When I see Danny & Paula’s child being thrown around in her activities as a competitive cheerleader, and Howard & Bonnie’s daughter in an ice hockey game, and Scott & Stacey’s son in nursing school, and the so many million more activities of your kids, our kids; I truly smile.
I also see the posting of despair, pain, and defeat. And I’m not referring to the ‘bad days’ we all have, and we do; I am speaking of the ‘our life is ruined’ forever by diabetes. And quite honestly, there is too big a gap between the “I will not stop” and “we are done” attitudes. Clearly……there is a choice here. Which one do you make?
A lot of work? You bet.
But I see adversity in so many lives. I have the honor of knowing so many who share those “tears-on-a-pillow” night………many. My work takes me, literally, across the globe and I have met people who inspire me on a daily basis. If you are feeling down, life is over, diabetes has ruined us……and you see a child that is just excelling in life, reach out to that mom and/or dad and ask them how they got to that point?
Daily we see posts asking so many questions but about “what to do” in a list of diabetes situations………but do you see someone who is just like your daughter, or son, but they seem t be smiling and taking every ounce of gusto out of life and you say to yourself; “How do they do that…..how did they get o that point?” I can tell you two things; one—they work at it and have problems just like you; and two, they will be glad to share with you how to ‘not let’ diabetes beat you.
Now if you are the type that just loves to ‘have a bad day every day’ and dwell on it for the world to see, well THAT is your call. But if you want to live differently and ‘not let diabetes win’…..find someone you see living life to the fullest, and their kids are doing the same, and discuss it with them.
Support is more than what to do when there’s a low or a high or a question about food. It is, “I-just-can’t-shake-this——how-did-you?” That is when real support comes in. Our psyche, if anything, has proven to be just as valuable to tend to as anything else in this diabetes world of ours. My tears on a pillow have surely become much less over the years……..not because I became ‘so used’ to the idea…..but because I have delighted in my children’s success more and more. Your child CAN live with diabetes……..the two key words are ‘can’ and ‘live’. It’s your job to get them there.
How’s that going in your house?
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