I believe that when we
engage in conversation with others who do not live with diabetes; we have but a
few choices to deal with regarding what may come back to us in the discussion. The simple truth is that people do not know what we go through, and unless you have diabetes, you really do not know what that is like either (and of course, conversely, our kids have no idea what it is like to be parent).
People will say what they THINK is the appropriate thing to say. But it is not always correct and it reminds me of a story a friend shared with me. I have a friend who has twins, a boy and a girl, and she told me that the number one question she is asked is if they are identical. I thought she was joking. She said, “Nope, they will see a boy and a girl in front of them and they will ask that question. I used to get angry with the ignorance, now I just laugh”.
I think there is a slice of advice in there for us. Laugh. Not because it’s funny but because it will serve as a reminder how much we need to do each time you hear it. Even 21 years later, I still hear comments that I find fascinating. You have heard them also.
So we can become confrontational or we can simply lay out the facts to the other person. They may get it; they may not. But be prepared, you will be called upon to do it again, and again, and again.
We truly have enough to get angry about, don’t we? We don’t need the misinformed person to get the better of our day, do we?
I can tell you, as surely as the sun rises, you will hear comments about diabetes that will range anywhere from amusement to anger. As they say, you cannot do anything about what comes your way, but you can do something with what you choose to do with it.
Choose something that does not get the better of you……..diabetes doesn’t deserve it.
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0 thoughts on “What do You do when You are Asked Something Stupid??????”
Lisa Goldsmith says:
As always, love your blog! As a T1 myself with a T1 son, we both have had those “stupid” questions or comments. But I have made those same “stupid” questions or comments about children with diseases I am not familiar with, so I tend to have more patience with others.
On another topic, as a T1, I would like to know what it is most that bothers them about being diabetic? Have you ever done a blog about that? I am a positive person like yourself, and am thankful we can live with the disease, but there a few specific things that bother me most. Just wondering if we are all different, or have a common thread?
Thanks again for all you do for us!
Thank you for writing. The topic works for me…..stay tuned. 🙂