There are so many people who interact with people with diabetes. They have friends, relatives, and at some point a boyfriend and/or girlfriend. I have always found myself looking to see what the people around my kids do, regarding their diabetes. Will it be that the role of us, “the diabetes police'” is something that we want and/or need to transfer over to the person our kids are dating.
What are the conversations they have? Our kids cannot, really, set the parameters on how we deal with their diabetes. If we were there from the onset, we felt the responsibility to make sure they live as healthy a life as possible and that means….well….sometimes we become a ‘pain the butt’. And that was just the way it was, but those rules change when we are not around.
In a relationship, do PWD immediately put ‘that’ to an end and ‘kabash it’, or do they allow it. If the boyfriend or the girlfriend say, “did you check your blood sugar”……do they immediately say, “don’t start that, you are not my parents”.
How does it work in a relationship? Is diabetes concern OFF limits?” Is it the elephant in the room that no one talks about. Do my kids NOT TALK about it while in a relationship?
Do we, as parents, have the right to enlist a boyfriend or girlfriend that THEY NEED to look after our child? Today I ask people with diabetes who are older and have been through the dating scene, when you started dating what role did that person have in your diabetes? What did you want them to do? What did you allow them to do, if anything? Parents, what do you think you have the right to say and/or do?
I seek your candor.
A discussion please and so everyone can see it…please answer as a reply to this post and not just on the FB page where you see this. Thanks.
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