WHEWWWWWW…….Glad THAT Family Holiday Gathering is Over!!!! Sound Familiar?????

whewIs that what you said when the day ended yesterday.  If Easter is a holiday in your house; did you find your self saying last night, “WHEW!!!!–another holiday and relatives done; with diabetes?  Thank goodness.”  Did you say that?

I remember clearly that holidays used to always add that added stress which was twofold.  1. Watching everything and anything that was within grasp tat would be/could be eaten.  2. What would someone say that would just make me cringe and grab the chair with my fingernails?  Being shown another article about what we had done wrong.  Another cure in spices found in China.  Another conversation asking if Kaitlyn was any closer to ‘growing out of’ diabetes.

So what changed?  We learned over the years that most questions (emphasis on MOST) came out of genuine concern, and/or caring.  Sometimes you have to look beyond the words and understand the meaning.  In many cases, I have learned in the 21+ years we have been to parties, family gatherings, and get-togethers that whatever is said is said in concern and/or the nervousness of not knowing what to say.  In most cases it falls into these two categories.

Once this is understood, we were better off and so will you.   Even if it is said a hundred times and you answer the same way a hundred times, I have found, it is concern or just not knowing what to say.  Hard to believe but I have found it to be true.

I could be wrong.  But in our circumstance, I was not.

Here is the exciting part, now the ball is in your court.  You are the one who can decide how the statements impact you.  You know it is coming, it comes in every gathering.  I decided to not answer the same way…….but answer the same way.  When asked, “Will she grow out of it?”—-for the millionth time if I just got angry and stated ‘no’; I decided to try changing it up.  “Let me answer your question with a question, do you think she will grow out of it?”

I said this in a perfect conversational mode and the answers were bountiful, but each time it resulted in more of an education than me just answering ‘no’.  I also knew that the conversation should not be a long one and it wasn’t.  In almost every case I was not asked again.  It worked.

So instead of answering; “…….unlike you; where there is a cure for stupid…..”, (which I wanted to do AND often) I found a better way to answer.

There are so many family gatherings and get togethers and I just did not want to go through ANOTHER ONE where my stomach did flip-flops until the time I left.  Now this article today will not all of a sudden make it better for you; but start trying a few things instead of just getting angry next time you are together with family.

We live with enough day-to-day stress living with diabetes………visiting family SHOULD NOT be one of them.  Try it in the future and let me know; and if YOU DO SOMETHING NOW please share your helpful hint as well.

And if there is THAT in-law who IS JUST BEING MEAN; well ‘bop’ them in the nose to get your point across.  That will add more stress but you’ll feel better in the short-term.

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Happy Easter—Happy Spring. A New Beginning Can Start…………..Now.

Easter Flower crossEaster.  My faith tells me that on this day my Lord and Savior not only died for us, but rose from the dead.  It is the basis for all we believe.  To me, I have always felt that Easter was a newness for everyone.  If not the holiday itself, but because of the season it happens; Spring.

Not everyone has the commonality of my faith, but Spring does spring eternal and with everything coming to life after a long, cold winter the season comes with ‘this newness’ to start over again, doesn’t it?

So I decided to ask you today; how do you start over again?  I jump out of bed practically every morning knowing that the day brings with it, something exciting that I have yet to find.  Well not every day, as we all know that life’s ups and downs can impact us one day to the next.  But most days, this is how I approach the start of expectations.

But we cannot possibly live life as if the world around us crumbles…..at least not live like that every day.  At least, I hope we don’t.  A million times I have stated the line from Shawshank Redemption, “Get busy living, or get busy dying”.  But when you are at the crossroads….what do YOU DO to be positive?  What do you do in the morning that says, “Enough!”?  What do you do when it is time to begin again…..for your family…..for yourself?

So for Easter being tomorrow, and the Spring days ahead if you believe differently than I, please share with those who just cannot shake the pitfalls of diabetes; share what you do to begin again.  To begin over again for the millionth time, to look through fresh eyes, to bloom in positive-ness; what do you do?

Please share so others can take that step.  Happy Easter and Happy Spring everyone.

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If You Know Someone Who Needs to Smile This Easter Season……Share This!!!!!

BunniesClick the picture of a very short video.

Enjoy it and share this with people who need to smile during this Easter Season.

Happy Easter!!!!!!

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Easter Baskets…….OMG: WHAT DO I DO ABOUT EASTER BASKETS??? Relax…..Easy as a Bunny Hop!!!!!!

Easter BasketThe Easter Basket.  If you feel a little tingle of nerves in your stomach because this is your first Easter Basket with diabetes………relax.  Today’s article provides a few ideas and I am going to ask those with experience to jump in here as well and add what they do; so you have choices on what YOU CAN do on Easter morning.

In our house, after Kaitlyn was diagnosed with diabetes, we made a few adjustments.  What you need to know here is that I am my father’s son when it comes to holidays.  My dad, God bless his soul, would take holidays like Easter and Christmas and take them out of the stratosphere on the amount of ……well…….everything that his six kids would get.  My mom and dad were the living examples of doing without, so their kids could; period.

Easter was no different.  Our baskets looked like the candy department at Woolworth, (ask your parents they’ll tell you).  Peeps, chocolate, malted eggs, jelly beans, marshmallow chocolate covered eggs and bunnies, and the biggest chocolate rabbit you have ever seen with a candy eye of blue for us boys and pink for the girls with a matching bow around their neck (which we ate around until it was the last piece when we would remove the bow and pop the last piece in our mouth.  Every year.

Well our kids got the same treatment.  Well on October 26th, 1992 that had to change in our house.  And when Easter rolled around my panic was obvious.  “I need to do this or there would be no tradition.”   Ridiculous thought as that was, I had it.

Another reminder here is that this is pre-pump days and all the wonderful tools we now have for better management.  So what to do?  It was/is always important for us that our kids…….well stayed kids……and we knew that sugar would be needed at times, especially to deal with lows, so giving a basket would not be a bad thing.  But we also knew that we probably should make some adjustments and we did.

Sugar free mints and gum came in handy.  Little girl accessories from Claire’s were always appreciated, trading cards, videos, colorful painted eggs, make-up and lipstick as she got older.  In short, much of the candy was replaced with small gifts—-think stocking stuffers on fake green grass in a basket with no stocking.  Crayons, coloring books, stickers, books, a pair of cool socks or a shirt all made for great gifts.

And eventually the candy was outnumbered by the gifts that could fit into the basket.  Wrapped in spring-styled wrapping paper.  Kids love opening gifts and to be honest the few peeps and jelly beans we left in there were more than enough along with the gifts we gave.

Let us know what you do in your house?

And ever year, perhaps smaller than what it used to be, sits a chocolate rabbit which gets eaten, probably just a tad slower than before diabetes.  But that is not such a bad thing.  And with boluses and everything else we can now do; well Easter is Easter in our house just like every other house.

My kids are all older now with the youngest being 18, but they still like their Easter Baskets with a mix of candy, and small gifts, and a chocolate rabbit that gets the area around the bow eaten last.  My dad would like that; Happy Easter everyone.

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To Whom DO I Turn at 3 A.M.????……….Sometimes a Good Cry IS Not Such a Bad Thing…….Is It?

tear dropIt’s three in the morning, you had a bad day, nothing went right, now your child’s blood sugar is 46.  You treat the low and you wait.  “I’ll check again in a few minutes.”
You look around.

You aimlessly flip a few pages of a magazine.  You reach for the remote and realize THAT is something you do not want to do.

“I know, I’ll go on-line.  Someone will be up.”

And there usually is.  Someone to talk to.  Someone else somewhere in the world going through what you are going through.  You are on for a while, you realize you have been on too long, you re-check your child’s blood sugar; 145.  You decide to go to bed, it is now 4:10 am.

This is routine.

When there is no one else…….there is someone else at a flip of a button.  Online.

But such was not always the case and there is an alternative for ‘having to chat’ with someone and it is not wrong to take this road.  Not always; well I surely hope it is not always, but when needed, if needed; there is nothing wrong with a good cry.

Let it out.

Back when ‘going on-line’ meant driving on the yellow line in the middle of the road; there was no one to chat with, talk to, vet, or feel horrible with and the alternative was to do a wash, clean more, read something, or just have a good cry.

The ‘crying’ was good because after a while you would feel silly; realize it was time to move on, and one would move on until you needed to cy again.  A week or even a year; a good cry was good to get everything out of your system.

So in as much as the online escape is good to have, remember, a good cry is not such  a bad thing to do every now and again also.  Face to face with no one else; helps you focus on what you need to do to move forward; and letting out emotion in a good cry……well not so bad to do either.   Food for thought.

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A Diabetes Bag by Any Other Name………What Do You Call Yours?

Diabetes bagI have noticed recently, that when people refer to their ‘diabetes bag’; you know that ‘quick-grab-and-get-and-take-with-you’ bag full of just enough diabetes supplies to help you in your travels, that they call it something.

You know, like a name.

I found that very interesting.  So today I would like to hear what you, in your household, call the diabetes bag.   This is a new phenomena to me as in our house we were very original and unique; we called it, “the diabetes beg’.

I wish we were more creative so please share by replying on this site—-what do you call the ‘diabetes bag’ in your home?

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Labels….Labels….Labels. A Public Service Announcement from your Local DiabetesDad.

LabelsI want to save you from some grief.  Whether you have been at this for a week or over twenty-three years, there is something you should do, and many do not.  Kind of hard to explain why people do not do this; but so many don’t.


In this day and age it is so easy to make labels or you have labels (that you received from the American Diabetes Association with a nickel in a direct mail piece) from many organizations who make them and send them out.  Meters, diabetes bags, etc etc etc should have a label with your name and address; or whatever contact info you feel is appropriate.

This may surprise you but you are not alone.  I’m amazed when I attend the CWD FFL conference in Florida how many people DO NOT have any contact information on items of such importance.  YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

We become so used to having it and always “just think we do”.  THAT is a false sense of security.  You will leave it behind.  (And here is a tip—-when you go to someone’s house, leave your car keys with the bag, that way you can never forget it.)

What I know.  You WILL leave it somewhere, and it will probably be at the most inappropriate time to lose your ‘diabetes bag’.  (Translation, it is the one time you do not have a back-up).

So take 10 minutes now and make sure everything has your contact information on it, you will be glad you did.

That concludes today’s public service message.

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Have You Ever Suffered from Diabetes Dropsies????? Welcome to My Week!!!!!

Dishes fallingHave you ever suffered with ‘Diabetes Dropsies’?  It’s a phrase I made up.  It is just those times that, even though I know I know, I drop the ball.  It just seems that there must be a full moon or something because when it comes to diabetes, I am having it a tad rough lately.

Insurance company stuff, I want to choke someone; when I usually have it a tad better in control.  I must have called into their ‘stupid line’ by mistake because I find myself having to explain Everything.
“No, not aspirin, INSULIN”.  You get the picture.

Becoming extremely annoyed that stuff has disappeared out of the kitchen and crumbs are everywhere.  Now I know that it is from lows, but this week I cannot seem to get above wanting to really let out a scream when I know it is not their fault.   I know it.

Other things also, but I know you have been there too. Feel free to share what you go through or have gone through during the ‘Diabetes Dropsies’..   Looking back next week, I’m sure I will find the humor in my actions and reactions; but nothing is quite like going through a period of the Diabetes Dropsies.  Feel free to share.


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Houston, We Have a Problem. Energy Building is More Productive than Energy Knocking Down.

Apollo 13 If you click the photo you will see a very  short clip.  It is from the movie Apollo 13, a classic directed by Ron Howard.  What is very interesting about this clip, is something that you might think is standard operational procedure for people working at NASA.  The ‘takeaway’, perhaps, is one does not have to work at NASA to understand the lesson.

In the movie (based on actual events) something has gone bad on the ship.   There are many reasons to say why the ship has this particular problem.  What I find so interesting about this clip (and the movie for that matter) is that little, if any, energy is spent walking around griping about the problem and ‘all that is’ wrong with it..  They can’t afford to do that as 3 astronauts’ lives depend on them fixing the problem, NOW.  They collect what ‘is good’ on the ship, what they have to work with, and they design a solution to the problem.

And they move forward.

I like the idea of just the right amount of energy going into what causes the problem or what is wrong and more energy going into fixing the problem.  My question is this; how much energy is spent in breaking something down when we see it, and how much energy is spent building something up?

You will clearly see more people jump on to the bandwagon to beat up someone who gets something wrong when it comes to diabetes, than commenting when a little cheerleader in the UK, with diabetes, wins a rack of awards, allows her self to be thrown 50 feet into the air, and has so much energy that you get tired just watching her; and she does it all while balancing and managing her diabetes.   THAT is something that deserves our energy and our comments.

Do not misunderstand me, when something is wrong it needs to be corrected.  Mama raised no fool and I understand that ‘outcry’ is what the media, and/or those in authority, need to hear loudly at times when they say or do something wrong.

But let me ask you a question; where did we leave Paula Deen,  Miss Manners, or any other person who may have ‘got it’ wrong?  I can tell you what happened that will last forever about a little boy who was encouraged; or a child who needed to hear that what he was doing was a good thing; when people took the time to build something/someone up, I can tell you that the ‘positive-ness’ had much more of a lasting impact. on those young lives.

There are two takeaways here.  One is to make sure when you read something about someone doing something cool, especially kids, stop and hit like; don’t be afraid to leave a comment congratulating them—-it WILL make a difference.

Takeaway number two is that we need to take what we have when someone does something and try to find the power behind the overall picture.  In the recent NY Times article, sure using a word like ‘gadget’ was not the correct choice for words; but there was a lot right in that article also.  I’m afraid the ‘right stuff’ was lost because the bandwagon left the station with the masses already deciding that the important part was only the parts that were wrong, wrongly stated, and not reported the way we felt it necessary to report.  Again, I cannot make the point any clearer–we must correct this when it happens.  But I ask this; how quick do you think THAT health reporter will be to write anything again about T1 Diabetes?  Is that REALLY what we want?

As I stated many times, getting something wrong is getting something wrong–our voices should be heard.  People should respond when there is an outcry and anyone who writes accepts that point and should welcome the opportunity to ‘get it right’ or even correct it when needed—-it comes with the territory, as they say.

As the clip stated (and to fit this example), “We have this, we need to get to this, using only what we have.”  Is it wrong to build something up with what was good, and find a better way to correct the wrong?   We should not have to ‘settle for anything’ BUT we have to work with what we have and sometimes, not every time, that means to work with something that can be built upon and not knocked down completely.  As my dear friend Dr. Richard Rubin used to say, “….find the balance…..’.

When doing an extension on a house, as any good builder will tell you, it is always better to leave what is good and build upon that foundation and not to knock it down to the ground and start over, unless it is completely rotted out.   What we read and hear, sometimes, is not always completely ‘rotted out’, and much good remains to build upon; let’s do that when we can. Think about it.

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It’s Easy To Make it About what they Got Wrong and Right………BUT ASK Yourself………

NY tImes logoThere has been much discussion about the recent NY Times article that included the writer’s opinion/research about devices, expenses surrounding diabetes, and more.  You can read the entire article by clicking here.

Someone asked me if I was going to chime in; and I AM going to chime in but perhaps not in the way that I am known to do.  Many people have stated their opinion and, for the most part, I agree with what has been written; but I noticed something else which I have been noticing more and more.

Will anyone EVER GET IT exactly right?

From stories of celebrities; events; initiatives and the list goes on and on and on; as soon as someone states “A”–someone else brings up “B”.  Someone was doing a fund-raising event to help people in less fortunate areas of the world outside of the United States be given insulin and other diabetes supplies; all good….right?  Nope.  Some people were stating that we should take care of those in this country before we help those in other countries.

I get it, I really do.  Everyone is entitled to an opinion.  They really are free to say what they want.

The media should take every step in getting the information correct.  And when they do not; IT SHOULD BE corrected.  But as I read the outcry regarding the NY Times, I was wondering if these outcries are taken from other aspects of our diabetes world and ever turned into actual actions?

When someone from the JDRF or the ADA state there is an action needed to oppose or pass a bill; do we, with the same muster discussing the NY Times-Paula Dean-Miss Manners issues-pick up a pen and write a letter?

When Bennet Dunlap states that he’s working on an initiative for strip safety and asks for an action step, do we, with the same muster, initiate the action he requests.

When there is an action step needed; is it talk–or is it backed with action?

If you do; fabulous.  This is article is not for you.

But if you find yourself one of those who readily jumps-in ONLY in times of crucifying someone who gets it wrong; I ask you to take a look and also LOOK TOWARD taking the plunge and ‘jump-in’ when others need help doing something right.

Opposing viewpoints to correct something ‘gotten-wrong’ is hugely needed and always encouraged.  But when there is much that needs to be done in this world of diabetes,  ask where is it that you fit in; ask where is that YOU DO something?  And if you do and you are comfortable right where you are doing what you can……..wonderful.

But ask yourself if there is something more that you can do; either by creating it or helping others accomplish their goals—goals that you share.  Those efforts need your help in this battle.  We all have a voice.  My big mouth is surely one of them.  But words without action are just dead.  Don’t ‘just do nothing’.  Think about it; and more than that—-do something.

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