When Kaitlyn was diagnosed at age 2, we were devastated. And when Rob was diagnosed at age 13 in 2009; we were just devastated again. Why would this happen again? How could this happen again?
But I have noticed something in our household.
As a parent. whether we get through to our kids or not is always a crap-shoot. That would go for just being a parent whether diabetes is present or not. There is a blessing (of sorts) when you have more than one child with diabetes. There is an immediate support system that cannot be matched anywhere else.
Kaitlyn says things to Rob that we would and could never say. I have stated hundreds of times that we have never once ever attempted to sound like we know what it is like to have diabetes, because we don’t. With that comes the statement that no matter what we say, our kids know we don’t know what they are feeling and sometimes that becomes the ‘great divide’ in trying to ask them to do what we know would be correct in their management.
We know because educate ourselves. But I have found that what could take me a good deal of time to explain, Kaitlyn or Rob can say to each other in just a few words and the impact is instantaneous. They get it. They understand each other. They are more connected than we, as parents, could ever understand.
I hate diabetes. I hate it times two more than most. But there is no denying the fact that what Rob and Kaitlyn do for each other, give each other; could never be matched in 100 years by someone, us; who do not have diabetes. We have our place but a sibling has a direct line to understanding and communicating that we, put simply, could never have.
And that is an incredible blessing.
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