Diaversary. When you type it, the little red-squiggle-line is under it as a mis-spelled word; you won’t find it in any dictionary, but you will find it in the Diabetapedia (bet you did not know we had one of those in the diabetes community….did you?…but we do); but for all intent and purposes, the word-diaversary-does not exist, except in our little community.
Diaveresary…..the date on the calendar that is the exact date you, or your child, was diagnosed plus one, two, three, four, etc etc years later.
Do you have a Diaveresary? Is it a celebration of a life lived? Is it a day that you merely sit and think about everything that you all have been through? Is it a day you hate? Is it just a date on the calendar that goes by without any notice….why should it; the word is made up and it doesn’t really exist……or does it?
I have seen people do all sorts of things on Diaversaries. I have been told that families do nothing; ‘my child with diabetes’ gets enough attention, it just reminds my other children that my one with diabetes will get that much more.” Interesting.
“My child puts up with so much and it is a celebration of all they do to live life to the fullest…..dang straight we are celebrating.” Understandable.
“We do nothing, we just want them to live as much as a normal day as possible; but we know, we reflect.” It just is.
“When they are all in bed, we drink ourselves to sleep…..it all just sucks.” Remembering the pain.
Chances are that some of these are familiar to you. My questions is; if ‘Diaversary’ is more for the parents peace of mind than those who actually have diabetes? The majority of people who I have talked to with diabetes, tell me, ‘just another day’. Some tell me that they would never even remember the date were it not for us, the parents, with some sort of reminder. Wow!
Some say it does not matter………it doesn’t change anything one way or another.
So as parents, we do everything we can to acclimate our kids to the ‘regular’ norm from the ‘new’ normal, we want them to participate in life in every aspect, we want them to go forward without a special light on anything so they do not stand out…….and then we stop everything to counter all of that by stopping on a day and saying, “Today is the day you were diagnosed”.
Celebration, good, sad, anger, life, etc etc……whatever the reason you choose to remember the day your child was diagnosed, or the day YOU were diagnosed; is the diaversary. No right answer. No wrong answer.
But if we, as parents, did nothing on our child’s diaversary—-what do you think would become of the day. Would it be just a normal day like all of the others?
But isn’t that just what we wanted all along? Thoughts?
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