It’s Here. Take the Time to Enjoy What You Do.

school busSchool.

I just love seeing all of the pictures posted of kids at their first day fo school.  There is a ‘newness’ to it, isn’t there?

The year begins full of hope and we, as parents, are ever watchful to notice that indeed our children are growing up.  And that is a fabulous thing.

With our youngest now out of high school (yikes!) it is such a time to reflect of those little people jumping on the bus for their first day of school.  It seems so long ago that they all started.  Now I know that many people are full of anxiety because school and diabetes is sometimes a real life water-and-oil mixture but take the time to realize what is happening with your child.

I promise you that diabetes will be all around your child before and after the first day of school so why not take the time to just stop, watch, and realize just how great your child is doing.

Enjoy this time with pictures and signs and happiness.  Our kids are growing up.  And they are growing up healthy with their diabetes.  Take the time to realize that this ‘first day of school’, no matter what year your child is in, is happening because of you.

The sleepless nights, the shots, the badge of diabetes police worn proudly; stop for a moment and take in the fact that your child is growing up ‘just fine’ because of you.  NO ONE will, or can understand that, unless they are a parent.

And when you are a parent to a child with diabetes, every now and again, a moment comes along that YOU MUST stop and take notice of your wonderful, tired, sleepless nights, frustrating, and fearful efforts.  For us, it was always the first day of school.

So much so, that the night before they started school each year the family was treated to ice cream sundaes.  My dad did that for us when we were growing up.  That tradition will continue I am sure.

Sometimes ice cream sundaes are perfect to enjoy.  Just like the first day of school.  Congratulations parents; enjoy.

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“I Do Not Need to Help Those with Diabetes”……A Conversation with an Interesting Takeaway.

whoaI had a great conversation with someone recently, during my travels, that was incredibly enlightening.  “Ed” was diagnosed when he was 22, he is now around 35.  He told me that his diabetes is in very good control and he wears an insulin pump and a cgm.

When speaking of my kids and my involvement, he stated that it was commendable at the level of our involvement and he stated that he really did not see the need to be involved with any diabetes charitable organization.  I saw this as an opportunity for me to learn.

I asked him why.

He stated that there was enough people out there doing what needed to get done.  His little push would not accelerate the research for a cure and the pharma companies will continue research and development as long as THEY THINK they can capture a bigger piece of the diabetes financial pie.

I asked him if he would allow me to ask a few blunt questions.  I made it clear that my tone would not be to challenge but to learn.  He said, “fire away”.

I stated if we all felt that way that nothing would get done to which he replied that someone would always feel the need to ‘do something’.   Life gave him a curve ball of which he was not very happy.  He shared that he spent his ‘diabetes time’ on how to best take care of himself which was a full-time job in itself.  If he learned, and learned enough to keep him healthy, he stated that should be enough to ask of one person.  It is a different perspective if you have it than if you have a loved one with it, he explained.

He was older when he was diagnosed.  He stated that if he was younger and watched as his parents did as many of us ‘did with the diabetes Charites’ we supported, he might feel differently.  But he didn’t and the focus, for him, has always been to take care of himself.   I asked him about ‘giving back’. 

(Here is where I listened very carefully)

He stated that he gives his money to (he named the) charity.  And he supports the same charity with time as well.  And a good deal of time.  He had a loved one with whom he was very close who was taken by that disease.  It had nothing to do with diabetes.

“I’ll be fine (with diabetes), they need more help than I do so I help them.”

I thanked him for his answers and I truly did not see the need to convince him otherwise.  He took care of himself, he gave to a cause that interest him, and he gave of himself.  When I asked him again about diabetes causes, he said that having the disease means he has to deal with it 24/7—-that was how he supported it.

Cure? Technology? Camps? Those less fortunate?  He stated that he would leave that for others who had/have a loved one with diabetes.  His emotions were only tied in diabetes to care for it in himself.  Which he does.

The discussion was enlightening.  The man took care of his diabetes; gave to the philanthropic cause of his choice and also gave time to the same charity.

As we parted ways, a voice inside told me that I had a problem with what I heard; but another voice stated that I don’t have a problem with what I heard. 

I ask you; as I do often, what do you think?  Please answer here by ‘replying-at-this-site’ so all can see (this gets posted in many different places).

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NEWS ALERT: If We Do NOT ACT NOW, Your Child’s Diabetes Could Spiral Out of Control

…your child, you, your mother, your father, and any loved one you have with any form of diabetes…..this pertains to you

What if you knew that the accuracy of your child’s glucometer was wrong.  Worse yet, what would you do if you found out after 4 months that the glucometer you were using was wrong?  What if you found out it was off by a lot.  What if you found out too late.

What if the problem led to a serious medical situations for your child.  THIS ISSUE is not to be taken lightly.

I hope I have your attention.

I have heard a million times how much people want to do something. 
“I want to help.”
“I wish I could help.”
“I have so little time to help.”
“How can I help.”

Well, here is an easy one.

This situation impacts anyone who has any form of diabetes and needs to check their blood sugar (which is every form of diabetes).  If this issue goes unresolved, we are heading to a place of meter accuracy that no one wants to be.  No one.

Read the issue and take action.

Read this:

And do this:

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Sometimes the “Little” is Not So Little.

Little bigI know a few people who lost their child to diabetes.   I cannot imagine how they go on.  But these few are all reflective of a spirit that is out there that needs to be recognized. 

They are reflective of those who have lost a child and those that have not; they reflect those people who believe that ‘doing nothing’ is unacceptable. 

There are people out there, that are not part of any huge organization, but that by any angle means that they are not ‘doing something’. 

I have talked before that it does not matter what ‘doing something’ is defined by you, it just matters that you just “don’t do nothing”.

These people I am speaking of today have small organizations or events that impact just the community around them.  Their impact is significant in the people they serve. 

I love this story:
A man and a boy are walking along the shore line and the man bends down, picks up a starfish and throws it back into the ocean.  He does this about every 5 minutes as there are hundreds of them along their walk together.
The boy chimes in, “That’s a waste of time. What difference will that make, there are hundreds of starfish.”
The man replied, “Sure makes a difference to the ones I throw back, doesn’t it?”

Now maybe they just educate those in their child’s school; perhaps they run an event that supports a local pediatric center, or perhaps they lecture in their local library about diabetes; whatever they choose to do will surely make a difference to the world around them.

Sometimes there is a need to try to help all of the starfish; sometimes helping only one matters most.

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Batman Ben: Let’s Hang Him in the Batcave Before He Even Sees a Script…..Seriously??????

Ben Affleck BatemanBen Affleck is the new Batman.

It was announced yesterday that Ben will play the cape crusader in the new Man of Steel Superman film.

And oh how the comments roared:
–way to destroy a franchise
–move over George Clooney .. you are not officially the worst Batman anymore !!!
–is this an April Fool’s Joke?
–Ben Affleck is cute, but he is not Batman

As someone who respects and loves the entertainment industry, I always smile at the reviews given by people before they ever see the person they are criticizing in the actual role.  If I have learned anything about this lightening fast and razor focused connection of the internet is that there are never a shortage of opinions.  

But I offer this, remember these-type comments:
–You’ve got to be kidding…
–this is totally bull. I do not at all like this choice
–Well hell while their at it why not cast Ben Stiller as the riddler, Julia Stiles or Rachael Leigh Cook as Poison Ivy, Paul Walker as two face, Matthew Lillard as Mr. Freez and Will Ferrell as Bane….

These were all said of Heath Ledger when it was announced that he would be cast as the Joker; which one him an Oscar.  And even if you are THAT cynical that you believe he only won the Oscar because he had passed away; there was just no denying what he added to the role.  He raised the bar of how the Joker character would be defined forever more.

Our initial thoughts are not always a ‘fair chance’, are they?  My take away here is a reminder how my friend Tara and I went to see (or should I say laugh) at a performance of Farah Fawcett in a theatrical production of Extremities years ago in New York City.  To say that we were not left with our mouths hanging wide open at the amount of torture this woman went through every night in this role would be a understatment.  Ms. Fawcett was nothing shy of brilliant.

It’s a quick reminder that because; we didn’t think about it first; it was not our idea; it sounds stupid; we would never DO THAT; I don’t agree with you-that-it-whatever; that perhaps we should take a step back and let whoever is doing something attempt it first before we shoot them out of the sky.  That goes for the diabetes world, the entertainment world, and life in general.

One’s opinion is nothing compared to another’s actions.  I admire those that do what no one attempted before; or attempts what no one thinks they can do.

Achievement is in the doing; no one ever wrote a book about someone who was going-to-do something.

Food for thought.

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A True Story that will Make Your Blood Boil…..We ALL MUST LEARN from this Story.

angryIf you do anything today; print out the news story at the end of this post.  I thank Tonya Sweat for sharing it.

I am livid.

While reading it, ask yourself the following; “How would I want this situation to play out for my child?”

Print out the news story and bring it with you when it comes time to discuss your child’s 504 plan at their school.  Be ready to show this story to your school officials when they say, “common sense” will prevail.  Be ready to ask your school officials what would they do in this instance?   Be ready to show this story when they give you a bullet-point one-sheeter and tell you this is what a 504 plan will be.

If you have discussed it already, go back and make sure this is covered.

Be ready.

I have said a thousand times, and said it to school officials at the schools for our kids over the years; the 504 plan IS NOT for just the obvious; it is for the unexpected.

Learn from this story.  Blame does no good here and people will do what they need to do to discuss and take action on this specific incident.  For us who are not involved: LEARN!

What is the answer?  That is for you and your school officials to work out but there are solutions.  I cannot comment as to what is right and what is wrong in this particular instance in a broad sense; although I do have personal opinions on this which I will not share because I’m too angry.  What I will say is that you can bet your last dollar that  this was not listed in the student’s 504 plan.  And some sort of provision should have been.  And if it was, this WAS NOT the course of action agreed upon.

How do I know?  In reality I don’t.  But seeing the choices given the student, it is clear there was no plan.

I have stated before that lock downs and evacuation plans need to be discussed.  In today’s world these MUST be considered.  Not only this instance mentioned in this story, but running low, missing lunch periods, need for administering glucagon, emergency needs during these times of crisis (which includes drills), checking blood sugars, a meeting point out of the building where the nurse can monitor, terms for good weather, bad weather, and anything else you can think of in-between.  If you have never thought of this….START NOW.

Let this story be a lesson for everyone.  Print it, carry it, and be ready to ask…..”…what should we do to make sure there is a provision for this type thing for my child?” 

Get it in the plan.  Accept nothing less.  Period!

Read, learn, print.

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