There is a dilemma we face that could use the help of…….well……someone….perhaps you. With ‘diabetes technology’ at an all time high (pun intended), there are increasing numbers of ways that we as parents can stay in touch with our children to keep an eye on their blood sugar via the cloud, cell phones etc etc to make sure they do not go too high, or too low.
When they are ‘under our roof’, that’s easy…..it’s our call. As teenagers—they will balk at anything we say anyway….so this can be added to the mix. They may get pissed at that, calling us the diabetes police…….but with this new technology….we could now be called…..Diabetes CIA. But what about when they are sort of under our roof……but not really under our roof? Also but what about when they are in their dorms, or living alone in an apartment? Would they not want the peace of mind knowing that someone ‘has their back’ when it comes to their blood sugar levels?
It’s certainly a two-way street. Our kids do not want us to be calling them when they are just a little low and they do not want to be ‘mothered-to-eternity’, do they (if saying ‘mothered’ offends you, feel free to interchange with ‘fathered’ or ‘parented’)? As my dear friend, the great, late Richard Rubin stated, “it’s about balance….it’s about setting boundaries and respecting them.”
I cannot imagine that anyone WOULD NOT want a mechanism where someone could be watching for that ‘just-in-case’ situation. But I also do not have T1 Diabetes and have not been listening to parents for 22 years either. Many of the adults with T1 have shared many of their experiences on their blogs, not sure if I’ve seen THIS topic…..I would appeal to them to address this issue, and if anyone has already, please share the link.
Your parents, your spouse, your friends……who has your back? I remember hearing over the years that many young adults have always feared that something drastic could happen during the night and they not wake up for it. Okay……now there are ways to monitor that situation for, and with, you. But how does that work; feeling ‘tethered’ to parents THAT MUCH MORE?????
What are the ground rules? Where does one start? How do we engage our children where they do not just ‘roll their eyes’ and tell us for the millionth time, “they got this.”
I know my kids ‘got this’, and I have been confident of that for the million times I have been told, but it’s the millionth-and-one time when they don’t answer that has me asking the question.
As new technology comes into our world, so do questions. My two requests today…..if you are an adult with T1; are you utilizing something to share your blood sugars with someone else? Who are you sharing it with? If so, what is the understanding…..what have you agreed upon when they should step in and text, call, or do some sort of action-step? Please share?
My second requests are for those parents where they have implemented this with their college kids and older teens in high school. Share that information please. We want to know blood sugars because we care…….but being part of the diabetes police….uhm….CIA…..won’t help anyone. There has to be a medium line where we can help without burdening. Kindly share your experiences.
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