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SHUT UP and Give Her a Piece of Candy!

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I’m just a tad tired of seeing ‘that’ horror on the faces of those people who have no clue what bearing candy has in the life of those who have diabetes; honestly, the answer is that it has none.

“WHAT ARE YOU DOING?  You cannot have candy out on the table; you have two kids with diabetes!”

(What I wanted to say) “Shut up you more-off (morON is too good for them), you have no idea what you are talking about.  It’s not poison, it’s candy.”
(What I said) “No, it’s okay.  They can eat candy, they just have to know what the carb ratio is, and bolus accordingly; and depending on their blood sugar level, they might just be able to ‘pop’ it in their mouth.”

 Well when I tell you that the mouth was just hanging open.

 “Reallllllyyyyyyy” (really long pause) “Wow……..who knew?”

 AHA…..and THAT is the point, STUPID.  We…..the parents know.   AHA……the ones with diabetes know.  AND WE ALL NEED NO HELP FROM YOU.

So here’s the deal, IF I do not mention to you that your daughter is not really at her girlfriend’s house like she said or your teen-age son was not really in the woods looking at birds with his friends and those cans were not soda, or the mints and perfume your daughter uses is not that she is so hygiene-savvy, or when your kids say they are at the movies and do not remember what it was about; all leads me to say that MY KIDS and WHAT they eat should have no place on your list of things that you feel compelled to share with me.  If I don’t tell you how to raise your kids, don’t tell me about mine—-especially when it comes to diabetes.

Because no matter how much I beat myself up over this wretched disease and everything it means, does, is and continues and regardless what YOU think—–I AM THE EXPERT.

Thank you.

Feel free to hand this out as needed. 🙂

I’m a diabetesdad.

 

Diabetes Winning in your House?—3 Who Inspire Daily—Learn.

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Are you living on life support?   I’m amazed when I read or hear some of the stories people relay living life with their children and the ‘new’ normal of diabetes in the household.  Some good, some not so good.  But let’s focus on the good and see if it can help those who live with such adversity in their life.  Ask yourself this as you move forward reading, am I living to the fullest or am I allowing myself to be beaten?

Remember this; we all are living with diabetes and I am fully aware that sometimes it will always get us into the dumps.  No matter how great an attitude we think we have, there will always be a time when we need a jump-start because we just get so tired.  (dealing with an all night blood sugar over 500 this week…..such a time).

But why is it that we can read stories or a Facebook post from Moira McCarthy or Diane Pridmore, and even on a bad day, they put a smile on our face with how they approach dealing with day-to-day diabetes? 

Diane has this incredible talent of making you feel present at her child’s Miss Kitty themed birthday party and make you smile with delight in her descriptions; and on another day she will zap you with:
“Here’s a news flash: I don’t have diabetes. My son does and until you get up three, four, eight times a night…. Write a 504…. Battle a nurse….or any other obstacle in human life PLUS diabetes you should STFU. Message me or call me and I am happy to educate you. Proper.”
But nowhere do you get the feeling that this mom is ever going to let diabetes win this war.  Her strength and willingness to help anyone who comes across her path is downright enviable.

Moira has been at this for 15 years…..15!!!!!  This is extremely important to take notice because this mom’s fight seems stronger than when she started when her daughter was diagnosed in 1997.  A recent post on Facebook:
“Yesterday I spoke at the Joslin at a really cool event for teens with Type 1 and their parents — sponsored by ADA, Joslin and the College Diabetes Network. Last night a donation to my JDRF Ride to Cure effort came through from a dad I met THAT DAY. I mean, wow. And: more proof that most of the d organizations work in harmony.”
Seriously?  Does this look like a woman who has any intention of slowing down soon? 

Even those Parents that suffered the absolute incredible ultimate heartache teach us a lesson every day.  This was posted today by Michelle Page Alswager who lost her son Jesse;
“I could spend the day reliving one horrific and indescribable day or I can spend it reliving 13 great years of memories. Happy 16 Jesse. We miss you.”  

How bad is your day…….really?    

What’s my point?  You can let every single detail of diabetes in your life; each high, low, insulin reaction, pump malfunction, not eating, eating too much, kids not listening and any other struggle strapped down with the weight of the world and let it pull you under……..or……..you can deal with diabetes to the best of your ability; suffer the pains, but LIVE the LIFE.

DO not think for one moment that the three women I highlighted here today don’t have the absolute low of the lows sometimes?  You cannot control diabetes coming into your home, but you can control what you do with it when it takes up residence.

Diane, Moira, and Michelle are great teachers of that……..it’s up to you whether you choose to learn or not.  They have taught me plenty……..how about you?

I am a Diabetesdad.